The Path To A Purpose Driven Life
Updated: Mar 28, 2019
Having a knot in the pit of your stomach is no fun.
There were years in my life when I felt this way all the time. I was always worried, dreading things to come, devising strategies to just get through whatever was in front of me.
We believe that this is what it means to be an adult and to have responsibilities. We believe this is just the way it is. We even believe that at its core, life is suffering.
But the truth is that life doesn't have to be this way, suffering is a habit, and we all have the ability to feel at peace within ourselves. Finding your purpose is possible.
Part of getting there is understanding the difference between responsibilities that are "aligned" and those that are "misaligned."
When it comes to aligned responsibilities, there is a sense of inherent right-ness that far outweighs our preference about things. In other words, even if we don't always like doing what we have to do, or we don't always feel like doing it, deep down inside we wouldn't have things any other way.
When it comes to misaligned responsibilities, we would stop doing what we are doing tomorrow if we believed that was an option. What we get in return for our time and effort just isn't worth it. These types of activities drain our energy, feel heavy, and we carry them like a burden.
Relationships, marriages, careers, and even our day-to-day interactions, conversations and decisions can all be viewed as either aligned or misaligned. The path to a purpose driven life is paved with aligned activities.
During the last three years of my corporate career I was very much misaligned. I can still remember a client meeting over breakfast on a Wednesday morning. When I left the meeting at 9:00am, I was so exhausted that I couldn't do anything else that day. I cancelled the rest of my meetings and went home and got in bed. The incident caught my attention because it was so unusual for me to be in bed in the middle of the day in the middle of a work week. I had been living in a misaligned way for three years. At the time of the breakfast meeting, it was taking every ounce of energy I could muster up to get through my days. Living this way was starting to catch up with me and my body was starting to shut down.
Later, as I became more aligned in my own life, the knot in my stomach disappeared. These days I say yes to responsibilities that are aligned and no to responsibilities that are misaligned. Life is no longer something to get through or survive. Because I'm only taking on responsibilities I'm meant to, there is more joy, more happiness, more ease in my day-to-day experience of life. This has been my path to finding purpose.
Do you have a knot in the pit of your stomach? Is it related to areas of your life where you know deep down you are misaligned? What is it costing you to live this way?
About the Author
Diana Calvo is a certified coach who helps people get unstuck and transform their day-to-day experience of work and life. After 20 years successfully climbing the corporate ladder, Diana experienced her own journey of healing and awakening. She discovered her true calling to guide others on their journey out of suffering and into a life of purpose and joy. Diana left the corporate world to start her own coaching business. She lives in Denver, Colorado with her dog Joey and a beautiful view of the mountains. She works with clients across the globe.