Freedom From Fear
You are afraid of your anxiety.
There is the thing you are afraid of. You are also afraid of feeling afraid of that thing.
Anxiety feels uncomfortable and gross and we all go to amazing lengths to avoid feeling it. When I reflect on my own life, it’s astonishing to realize all the times I chose suffering in a misguided attempt to avoid feeling my anxiety. I did this at work and in other areas of life too.
For example, it took me THREE YEARS to leave a job that was no longer in alignment with my soul’s path. I was afraid of leaving my job. More specifically, I was afraid of the unknown consequences of leaving my job. Who would I be? What would I do? What would I tell people? Beyond that, I was also afraid of the fear I would wake up feeling the morning after my last day. All these fears added up to a bundle of anxiety that became overwhelming.
I've since come to realize that facing fear - and feeling it - is often a necessary step in getting past it. That might mean doing the thing you are afraid of.
As you consider your next move, it can be helpful to spend some time dealing with anxiety. Dissect it a little. Take that unsettling icky disturbing fear feeling that sits there like an undercurrent to your daily experience, and break it down into some tangible pieces and parts. What exactly is it about this situation that I am afraid of? What am I doing, or not doing, to avoid feeling my fear?
Through this exercise you begin to create some space between your self and your anxiety. When you have space, you can start to move in to the position of witness to your anxiety. The more you can be the witness, the less you become all consumed by your fear. Practicing being the witness, over and over again, is one way that we get closer to the truth of who we actually are. It’s how we realize the fear is nothing more than a feeling that comes and goes. With this realization, fear loses its grip on our day-to-day experience. When that happens, our lives genuinely change.
About the Author
Diana Calvo is a psychotherapist and coach who helps people get unstuck and transform their day-to-day experience of work and life. After 20 years successfully climbing the corporate ladder, Diana experienced her own journey of healing and awakening. She discovered her true calling to guide others on their journey out of suffering and into a life of purpose and joy. Diana left the corporate world to start her own coaching business. She lives in Denver, Colorado with her dog Joey and a beautiful view of the mountains. She works with clients across the globe.