Updated: Mar 25, 2019
There is a lot to be learned from the practice of doing what you don’t normally do.
In other words, the practice of breaking habits.
My coaching is based on the premise that nothing is wrong with my client, it’s only that he or she has developed some habits that aren’t particularly useful anymore.
The habits have to do with thinking, believing, feeling, responding, avoiding, seeking.
Through the examination of these habits, a client naturally opens up to doing what he or she
doesn’t normally do, and this is how things actually change.
It’s not a sexy, glamorous, over-the-top, leave-everything-behind-and-get-a-new-life kind of change.
Rather, it’s a change in the experience of normal, mundane, everyday life.
This is a big deal when we are struggling to make it through day-to-day life.
It’s a change that is genuine and that lasts.
It’s a return to inner peace, and a sense of being comfortable in your own skin.
It’s a calm inside that runs steady and deep, as life continues to bring its ups and downs.
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Last year I was at a meditation retreat with about 300 other people. I did what I always do, and I sat in the back, in the last row.
One evening, while I was sitting back there, a teacher came over to the handful of us sitting all the way in the back and said:
“You know, you can sit wherever you like. But when you sit all the way in the back, when there are available spaces in the front, I have to wonder why you do that.”
Then he turned around and walked away.
This interaction left a real impression on me. For one thing, it was such a gentle way to get a point across. For another, it caused me to examine my habit. I asked myself, “why do I always sit in the back?”
The teacher inspired me to break my habit and to do something I don’t normally do. After he walked away, I got up and found a spot in the front, on a cushion, surrounded closely by other people at the retreat.
It felt different up there.
Being in close proximity to the others made me feel more like I was part of the group and in community.
Later in the evening there was a surprise performance of singing and the playing of singing bowls that was moving, stunning, and beautiful. I had a better view because I was in the front.
It turns out I like being in the front. I never would have known if I wasn't willing to challenge my habit and do something I don't normally do.
About the Author
Diana Calvo is a certified coach who helps people get unstuck and transform their day-to-day experience of work and life. After 20 years successfully climbing the corporate ladder, Diana experienced her own journey of healing and awakening. She discovered her true calling to guide others on their journey out of suffering and into a life of purpose and joy. Diana left the corporate world to start her own coaching business. She lives in Denver, Colorado with her dog Joey and a beautiful view of the mountains. She works with clients across the globe.