Dealing With Anxiety
In my own life, I spent 41 years running. I was running from uncomfortable feelings – that I wasn’t yet ready to face – related to childhood trauma.
I loved to escape. I used my entire life to escape. Food was an escape. Alcohol was an escape.
Work was an escape. Shopping was an escape. Relationships were an escape. Blaming and judging others was an escape. Fantasizing about a different, better future was an escape.
I believed that “reality” was fundamentally and forever miserable, and the only hope in life was to find these temporary moments of escape.
I believed that life was something to survive and tolerate. Joy was a foreign and faraway concept. I didn’t believe in it, couldn’t understand what it might be, didn’t even hope for it. I didn't know how to stop anxiety.
When life did not provide the escape I needed it to, I went into crisis. For example, when getting married didn’t solve all my problems, when my then-husband couldn’t make me feel better, I became desperate and inconsolable. I was living life to escape, so failed escapes were devastating.
And then one day the futility of escape landed on me like a ton of bricks.
It became clear that trying to escape wasn’t working. It wasn’t working at all. In an instant, I knew intuitively that avoiding myself wasn’t possible.
And that’s when I decided to stop running.
I sat down, I got help, and I looked at it all. All the pain, sorrow, grief, resentment, anger, rage and fear.
By looking at those feelings, by feeling them, by allowing them, my entire experience of life changed. I learned how to cope with anxiety.
I let those feelings out. New feelings came in, including for the first time: peace, happiness, joy.
When painful feelings show up now, I have tools for processing them, for letting them go in the moment.
If you are ready to learn how to cope with anxiety, I can help. I will support you as you face those emotions that your ego has convinced you are deadly and must be avoided. I will help you understand your own ego, how it operates, and how to build a relationship with your ego in order to lessen its grip on your day to day experience of life. We will practice living in the present moment and you will begin to experience internal shifts that genuinely change how you experience life.
About the Author
Diana Calvo is a psychotherapist and coach who helps people get unstuck and transform their day-to-day experience of work and life. After 20 years successfully climbing the corporate ladder, Diana experienced her own journey of healing and awakening. She discovered her true calling to guide others on their journey out of suffering and into a life of purpose and joy. Diana left the corporate world to start her own coaching business. She lives in Denver, Colorado with her dog Joey and a beautiful view of the mountains. She works with clients across the globe.